You are looking for the aspect that explains why love and self-respect pull against each other. Keep looking. This is not it.
What it looks like in a life
In a real chart Venus is always near your Sun: same sign, or one or two signs over. The friction people are hunting for usually comes from Venus square the Moon, Saturn, or Pluto, or from a Venus that wants what your Sun refuses to admit it wants. A Capricorn Sun with an Aquarius Venus feels like a square and is not one.
The gift
Ruling this out saves you from an explanation you cannot use. The real aspect is findable, and it will tell you something true.
The friction
Chart generators sometimes print this with absurd orbs. If a report gives you Sun square Venus, check the degrees and treat the rest of that report carefully.
The esoteric layer
Traditional astrology read Venus by her distance from the Sun and by whether she rose as morning or evening star, never by angles her orbit makes impossible.
Where this goes
The aspects Venus actually makes are where your pattern in love is written. A full natal reading reads them in order.
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See it in your own chart
Cast your chart free and read this placement next to everything else you carry.